Is it awful to do this to your spouse?

Q: My husband were having problems involving his mother and sister becoming one with our newly formed family consisting of 2 years of marriage and a newborn baby. We constantly are bombarded by requests by his family and they always use my husband for favors, rides to places, and free babysitting. It is affecting our marriage terribly. I spoke with him on many occassions about it, and he just tells me not to talk bad about his family. I told him that his new family comes first and he needs to put them on the back burner or our marriage is going to suffer. He allows daily phone calls from his immature mother at work who phones him all day long at her receptionist job and who used to text message him at least 30 times a day until I blocked text messaging on our cell phones. I had it with my husband's mom calling him constantly and asking for favors. He told his sister to stop calling because she only calls for a ride somewhere (we live 35 minutes away and he was suckered into picking her up and taking her places one too many times) and he's had it. She still calls every few days asking for things. Now I've taken the matter into my own two womanly hands and have blocked both of their numbers from calling his cell phone. He can still call them, but they can't call him. I would do the complete block, but that would make our phone bill go up and I won't pay extra because of them. He will eventually figure it out when his mom calls whining that her phone won't get through to her son. I will play innocent until he suspects something, I just want to see how long she can last before she collapses and dies because no one is catering to her needs. So is this awful to do this to your spouse?

A: While I don't think you should have blocked numbers on his phone behind his back, I completely understand why you did it. He is way out of line catering to his mother and his sister. They should be helping each other so your husband can care for his family. He needs to realize that you are his wife and you are #1 now. He is wrong for not seeing this.

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