Q: Everyone at work is nice to me ant that is fine, but there is one guy that has to go further than that all the time. It is at the point where if he knows I need something he will go and get it and put it on my desk for when I return. Or, if I need to clean up my desk he does it for me while I am elsewhere. Also, he compliments me all the time, buys me small things like coffee, drinks, chocolate etc He tells me how he thinks we get along very well. Personally I think he is a little boring. He tries to be funny but he really isn't. I am polite at all times but yesterday it really got on my nerves. I feel bad about it as he is only being nice. What should I do?
A: You should not bash his being kind.. maybe he has hopes you may feel more for him.. but unless he tells you that.. be polite to him and just make it clear to him you appreciate him as a colleague and for the little politenesses he does for you.. otherwise it would be cruel but bash his hopes that you have other feelings for him.. by just saying.. I appreciate you a lot as a great work colleague.. we get along well at work.. but in my private life i have a partner.. thank you.. but your kindness is much appreciated... but you should not do too much for me otherwise the others will get envious.. you should also think about your own work. .. but you are kind I appreciate you as my colleague... and for your thoughtfulness... I would just tell him that.. maybe he will not be so thoughtful anymore after that .. because he is obviously smitten with you.. if he continues to be as polite he is a genuinely polite guy and that is something to appreciate.. then he does it really only without expecting anything in return... xxx